Saturday, December 26, 2015

Past stories unfold

Christmas season, Family time.
Had Fun reminiscing children's good old days.
So much Laughters.
Then goes kwentuhang Mcdo:
and the only son recalled: (now 22 yrs old)
~Traumatic experience he can't forget up to now, when he was a kid
~surprised mama
~son: Grabe. Di ko makalimutan yun hanggang ngayon, nung iniwan ako
          sa Mcdo, sabi maghintay lang ako dun, susunduin ako ni papa,
          buong hapon naghintay ako, pero di dumating si papa.
~shocked mama, we did not do that and we will never do that
(the incident was when he was between 4 to 6 yrs old, during that
time when we lived/rented in Cabanatuan City)
mama's story of the incident:
~ a relative of my husband asked to bring our son (as kid chaperon) on
   her date with her boyfriend
~ I was told about a month later after that date (by that relative's mother)
   that my son was lost in the mall during that date, that her daughter and
   boyfriend had real time looking for him, that made them come home late
   than expected
~ I was even told by the mother not to tell her daughter that she told me
   about my son's lost, because her daughter wants to keep it a secret
   from me,
~ that relative got angry to her mother upon learning that her mother revealed to me
   about it, for fear that I will no longer allow my son to go with them
~which I did, I no longer entrusted my son to her, for fear that my son will
  get lost again .
It's only now that we learned about the whole story.
My son can't believe for the back story of that incident. So he was left intentionally at McDo by the relative and boyfriend, and went back to him at the end of the day . We all can't believe that happened to my son.
Lapses:
~When I was told about the so called lost of my son during that time i did not
  asked my son about it anymore, perhaps to let him get rid of the thought of
  it. Just told him to be careful and aware all the time when he's out of the
  house.
~My son never mentioned it and it's only now that he eventually shared it with
us, a very traumatic experience he can't forget he said.
More of my son's paglalahad:
~nakaupo lang ako sa Mcdo, natatakot gumalaw, naghihintay lang kay papa
~binibigyan ako ng ice cream ng taga McDo
~tapos sinundo na ako, hindi naman si papa
Me: beast mode and in war mode upon learning about it
~what if somebody took my son away?
~what if his asthma attacked during his long wait?
~what if he need to go to the restroom and needed assistance?
~what if he cried in fear? he was only 4 to 6 yrs old during that time.
So many if's!!!
To this relative of my husband, we don't have any contact anymore and we don't know where you are now, but if you will read this then you know who am I referring to...you know who you are. I just want to tell you I'm thankful you taught us a great lesson. My daughters have their own kids too, and my eldest learned a lesson, hindi dapat ipagkatiwala ang anak sa malayong kamag anak. You taught us a big lesson, we will see to it that what happened to our son when he was young will not happen to our grandchildren. With that, I thank you very much for the lesson
It's Christmas time and New Year is coming. I don't want this discovery to ruin our days. we have so many reasons to be thankful about and be happy...
Why do I need to post this?
I am compelled to post this to give warning to parents out there with little kids. Be careful if someone will ask you to have your child as kid chaperon on a date.
And make it a habit to ask your child to relate to you about their experiences when they're with others.
To help move on from bad experience:
Don't keep grudges about it. Find the reason/lesson it brings, and be thankful about it. Count the gain, not the pain.

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